Risk of online dating
While it harkens back to the days of romantic letter writing and courtship from afar, it's amazing how completely sucked in and duped we can get even while being suspicious and cautious.The power of our projections of romantic fantasies is so seductive, and the resultant raging hormones fueling our hopes and dreams can leave us with limited capacity to see reality, thereby potentially endangering our lives," remarks distinguished psychotherapist and professional speaker Marta Fuchs, MLS, MFT.
Increasingly, these scammers are hitting online dating sites, social networking sites, and chat rooms to troll for victims. Phil Mc Graw, popular mental health expert and host of daytime talk show , it's hard to tell whether you're getting hooked on a catfish.published a disturbing story about a 53-year-old California grandmother and widow who had gotten swept up in one of the oldest cons in the book: the sweetheart swindle. In no time at all, she received a message from a man going by the name of John, who claimed to be a 60-year-old widowed engineer from Colorado. He showered her with compliments, charmed her, and declared that she was "the one." Months later, John said that he had to make a business trip to Africa.He was rocked by a series of emergencies soon after.Red Flags to Watch Out For Red flags that your so-called "match" could be a romance scammer include the following: Taking It Offline.Your match presses you to leave the dating site and persuades you to communicate via personal email or instant messaging. Because scammers know that online dating sites are able to surveil members and oust those who display questionable behavior or attempt to commit a scam. Not getting caught is important to the scammer, as he or she will want to "troll" the site again for fresh victims when he or she is done with you. Your match gives every appearance of living high on the hog--profile pictures of mansions, luxury cars, exotic destinations, and so on, yet persuades you to loan him or her money.