Cougar a guide for older women dating younger men
Particularly the baby boomers are not going to disappear. His job took him to New York and I couldn't go and we tried long distance. And, in fact, the relationship between an older woman and a younger man breaks up generally at her behest because she decides. Good sex and great relationships are not anything to do with looks in the end. All right, I know about Diana and [Camilla] was the mistress and all of that, but even if it wasn't like that, they would still condemn her because they feel she looks like the back of a bus and she's old and why can't he have a nice [girl] like Diana? [Laughs] Men, particularly of older ages, have never liked the idea of older women being in control. The whole of society resents women -- especially older women -- who have a lot of control. Actually the reaction to the book has been younger men.
They want what they want and they're moving everything from health to attitudes to sexuality and they're saying: Excuse me, this is me. She says: Look, it's time you maybe had a family or whatever. Because they get terribly besotted with their older women and want to stay with them forever but there is that whole thing of babies and family and the mid-life crisis of the young man, maybe. It always irritates me when people say: You know, she's going to get older and saggy and... Because, as you know, when you get into a relationship with someone and you adore them or the sex is fabulous or whatever it is, you're not looking and saying: Oh, but look at the damn wrinkles! It may start out that way, but it's all to do with a lot of other complex factors. Have many of these people stopped to think: Well how come this man has had a 27-year relationship -- or more -- with this woman and he's so besotted with her? That they have control of their sexual lives, particularly, is a real taboo. History is full of women having to do certain things to survive, to have a roof over their heads, to be looked after, whatever. Women now know what to do to look after themselves. Overwhelmingly younger men all want to know: Where can I meet these cougars? [Laughs] You've got to understand really that, for a lot of men, and I'm not saying young or old, their first experience -- a lot of older men have told me -- was with an older woman. Of having this lovely, sexy woman all over them like a rash.
It could be very techie, it could be music, it could be anything. [Laughs] He was in Canada and I was there and I came over to be with him.
But she keeps really young listening and learning from him. It depends very much on their style; their attitude. It was a wild decision because I didn't know him very well.
Even though this is a fun book with this idea that the women are predatory, it's always the young men that chase the older women. It was as simple as that: Go find a profession that was more suited to women. Then you've got the whole thing, well like condoms. Now there's the etiquette of condoms: when to get them and what to do.
The whole idea is that this book, basically, offers options to older women, I think.
Women aren't stupid and that's another part of the whole thing: women do not get less intelligent as they get older. In fact there are more books out on incest -- can you believe that? They haven't got what the modern world takes in order to be valuable to society. They are valuable and older women today go into their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s looking fantastic. In my opinion you're of more value and I try and tell women that. I'm already in a situation that is pretty beneficial if you're thinking along those lines, but even before I did this job, I never had a problem meeting men. And I was never afraid to go up and talk to a guy who was on his own and even years ago I would ring the guy and say: How are you doing? One of the reasons: they don't give a damn that you earn more money than they do. I wrote a book 10 years ago on a similar subject and you'd think I'd written something about incest. [Laughs] You know, it's not a question that as you age you're of less value. [Laughs] And: How would you like to meet my parents? I think the women like it: they love that kind of sleek, animal, predatory, in control of their life kind of image: I'm in control of all of this. They are generally very well dressed, very well put together and fit. And that's a long-term relationship: [Kurt Russell] is 15 years younger than her. Just one of those things: the British are like that. It's a different lifestyle from the old days when they were encouraged -- older women -- to get to a certain point and then knit booties for their grandkids: Just disappear, please. My last husband -- my fifth husband -- was 14 years younger and it was a great relationship. It didn't break up for anything to do with sexuality or my age or anything. And look at the whole condemnation of society on that.